It’s become essential to talk about how Tibia changes people to the point where we develop a totally different personality in-game compared to the people we are in real life. Today I want to talk about how each one seems to fight a different battle from their position and very rarely do we put ourselves in the other’s position, whether they are contrary or not. Respecting the processes for me means understanding that not all of us go through the same path at the same time, which means that we are not all in the same situation and that being Tibia the place where we all meet and form large dysfunctional and strange families, acquires the the need to understand or perhaps even empathize with the enemy, eliminating the intention of things happening in a 2D online game transcend into real life. It is difficult, extremely difficult, to draw a line between the life we ​​lead on a daily basis and our online routine. That means that many times both come into conflict and that process is complicated to manage, and even more complicated to understand when it is not you who is going through it. I also wanted not only to adress the process, but also the respect, we all get outraged when we witness a humiliation to a member of our «family» we take out the torches and spears and go for the one who deigned to sully the name of our guildmate or someone close to us. But the terrible reality is that we have all been complicit, part of, or have remained silent (Yes, silence and lack of action also make you an accomplice) in situations that simply should’ve not happened.

At what point of our history will there be that collective conscience to make us stop and think about the damage that we directly or indirectly cause to the people around us? It is difficult to know, we cannot, although we would like to make others act at our will. But the reality is that words have weight, words matter, are relevant and many times they hurt more than a blow. I feel that I have reached a point where I think that everyone should be responsible for their actions and that it is not in me to blame them, point them out or hold them responsible for what was wrong or what I think they did wrong, and that has led to greater understanding and wisdom in managing how I react to an online attack. When you put time into perspective and since this is our only truly non-renewable resource and the most valuable thing we have, it becomes decisive to take a turn to the type of person you want to project, inside and outside the game. Perhaps, someone who reads this and doesn’t know Tibia may think that this is too serious a topic to talk about, the behavior of a community in a 2D game. But the reality is that I have witnessed and participated in so many situations that make me understand that our responsibility cannot undermine the respect we must have for the processes of others, no matter what excuse you have to justify your actions, at the end of the day if you start to analyze what someone who examines the way you behave in that little 2D game would think without the context that you believe would justify the way you are acting, you will realize that you are as bad or worse than the person you are facing.

It’s needed for us as a community to start talking about these things, to touch on mental health issues, to question ourselves and, more importantly, to analyze our behavior. So that, as individuals, we can cut the traits of aggressions that have made us a fun, but toxic community, in which the cost we are paying is often very high. I know that many will probably read this article and think «What a hypocrite Ryo is» and will remember many times in which I acted contrary to what this article preaches, and I continue to do so. We are human, it is okay to make mistakes, but it is also okay to apologize, question ourselves and, more importantly, channel our attitudes until they become something positive. I wanted to write all this to you, so I can turn my previous and current actions into something positive, to approach toxicity with a different point of view. To make you question yourself INSTEAD and in spite of others, how much longer are you going to wait to start acting? Turn your thirst for revenge, justice or «making things equal» into something positive FOR YOU. For it to ultimately turn into something positive for our environment, we need a change and that change must start somewhere. I greet you hoping that now you question yourself and have a different point of view of our collective consciousness.

Hugs,
Ryo.